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| When i help others i am calm, when i help my self i am nervous! why? | | Published by: wktd 2009-01-08 |
| | why is it when i need to help others i am calm but when i need to cross obstacles for my self i am not, i am really nervous.
when some one asks for help i always help even i don't know how, i learn what to do very fast. but when i need to solve a problem that have to do only with my own interests i get so nervous and can do any thing.
Well that happens to everyone because when you are answering a question it is not about you and you are just giving your opinion about it but when you are asking a question it is very different there is the thought about worrying how people are going to answer it and if the outcome is bad and maybe if you just don't want to face the facts. So all in all don't worry it is normal and everyone has the problem about asking and if you want i will look out for your name and i will give you some advise :)
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Hope my answer helped :)
You are nervous because you are now in their "shoes" when you are helping someone the situation doesn't directly effect you in any way. Like the saying "Easier said than done" :) Good luck.
Your nervousness could arise from a number of different experiences. Most likely, your nervousness is caused by a lack of confirmation of your own self-accomplishments. People are often too busy with their own lives to acknowledge the authentic time spent in self-improvement(of others). I recommend putting it into a context such as "I am taking care of my own problems, so that I can help take care of others' problems." I am hurt and confused so hello and help - Dementia Support Forums::
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dont be nervous. if you treat others calmly, then do it to yourself by seeking help w/ others.
by the way, you have a very cool name. gman is my victim in garry's mod.
i let a barnacle (those monsters who hang on the ceiling and suck anything up) eat him.
cuz u know, wen u help others, u usually dont feel the way they feel because it isnt happening to u, wen u help urself, its harder because it is happening to u, get it?
basically you are people pleasure. you feel your self was born to help the others and feel happy when you helped them. you think that your main job in this life helping the others which is good for the others but that is gonna kill your self.
i will ask you one question:
if you helped your love (what ever family ot girl) and that one thanked you alot. what is your feeling?
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if you helped some one strange but you feel he is a good guy. what is your feeling?
if someone you don't know he is a good or not. i will answer this question : you would feel nervous.... right
If some one bad and you feel that you have to help him. you will also feel nervouse and maybe you will fail to help him by mistake.
all in all brother, you hate your self. maybe because you were a bad guy and recently changed to good. or your you hate you past ( while you are child)
i have answered why as you asked us.. if you want how to get ride of it am here....
Maybe you feel everyone if worth extra effort and you feel selfish to help yourself. Remember that we can't help others if we aren't in the position to do so. I felt the same way years ago, then realized I couldn't help the poor if I was poor, I couldn't help the uneducated if I was uneducated, and I couldn't help the sick if I was sick. If you want to really help others, you must take care of your own needs and future to do so.
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