Why do some people always seem negative and never happy?

Published by: jack 2009-01-09

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I know bad things happen in life and I know that life does not always go the way you want it to go but does that mean you have to be negative and expect bad things to happen all the time. Why can't people just learn to be happy despite circumstances? Why can't people just enjoy life even if its not going their way?

easier said than done......you obviously have never suffered from any type of depression

I often ask myself the same question?? I myself have had a difficult life. Divorced, single mother of two small boys, cancer battle (so far I am winning) and I just celebrated the 10 year anniversary of a life threatneing vehicle accident. I dont know why people feel that the need to view life in a negative fashion. I feel they should all take te time to think of things like cancer, loss, poverty, starving, and realize that we dont have it so bad. Things could always get worse. So chin up, we are alive to ask and answer these questions. I personally am happy and grateful for everyday I wake up.

I sometimes wonder if it's just easier for some people to be negative rather than put effort/work into being happy/changing their life somehow?

That's not an easy question to answer. It could be influence from others or it could be just the way their brains function. I'm generally an optimist but I can't say I "enjoy" life when things are going wrong but even still, I do try to focus on the positive. No matter how I feel I always smile and say I'm fine when others ask, no need to bring others down just because I am.

Yes, bad things happen. But the key is thinking, what thoughts become habit. "Why can't people just learn to be happy despite circumstances?" They can!...with cognitive therapy, if they stick with it!
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There are certain things in life justifying pessimism.

I'm one of those people who "seem" negative and "never" happy.

I could sit here and write a book to explain my behavior but let me try to summarize it.

Let me begin with the people who are actually "positive" and "happy."
There are many psychological defense mechanisms that allow people to be happy. Among these are denial, repression and projection. When something undesirable happens or when people realize something about themselves that is undeniable, they often go into denial or start projecting these undesirable things in order to justify them and feel better. They slowly paint a picture of reality that is nothing but a delusional lie. This "lie" where things that are negative are denied or repressed and their negative characteristics are projected unto others is what enables people to be happy because it makes it okay. Ever hear someone say "It's human nature," or "that's the nature of the beast," or "things have always been like this," or "everyone else is doing it too," or "I just did what I was told," etc. These are all ways in which people cope with a negative reality by attempting to justify it.

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Now, the fundamental difference between the "happy" people and people like myself is that we would rather be depressed with reality than happy with a lie. We are the people who see society falling apart and try to fix it. We are the people who ended slavery while you "happy" people were fine with it. We are the people who can't accept that people are starving when there's food for everyone. We are the people who don't say "I just did what I was told" when people like Hitler try to kill six million people.

You "happy" people see the world falling apart and say "it could be worse so it's okay," while we say "the world could be much better so let's improve it." The reason why we are negative and unhappy is because our hands are tied since there are so few of us and so many of you.

I'm someone who measures other people not by how much money they have, not by how pretty they are, not by how much personal problems they overcome, not by their ability to create a lie in order to deal with reality. I measure people by whether they are willing to take on reality as it is and try to make it better. The average person lives up to 100 years or so, so no matter how "happy" they make themselves, their happiness is only worth 100 years of a single life. A person who changes the world for the better, makes 8 billion lives happier for as long as the world is around. That's 100 years times as many people who live to enjoy the change the person made. That's why in my opinion, a person is only as good as the positive changes they try to implement in the world.

People are basically lazy. It's easier to be the pessimist. Truth hurts; doesn't it.

because were unhappy and negative...duh

Good question. That is hard to do now days I guess. It seems like everyone gets irritated at even the small things. I try to tell myself not to worry about things not in my control but when it comes to family, it is hard to do. People have no patience.

mark twain stated that most people are about as happy as they make up thei