I am 17 & pregnant 4 the 3rd time.. As ii have had 2 miscarriages.. All my pregnancies was planned.. & i cant wait to have a family of my own.. I have read a few questions on here & so many people down young & teenage mums.. When why.. They are just as capable as the older mums.. As long as they are grown up & can look after themselves aswell as baby.. & still have time 2 have more if they want to.. The older u get ther harder it gets 2 get pregnant.. Your fertility levels go down at 25.. & u COULD run out of time 4 having your young 1's.. Or something bad could happen which could stop u having babys.. &Younger parents are more active so wouldnt that make u a fun parent when your child is old enough 2 play etc.. U will have heaps of energy.. & able 2 make your child laugh & have fun.. Rather then sticking them in front of the tele watching blues clues.. I am NOT downing older mothers.. Koz most of them r brilliant.. I am just saying that us young 1's are just as capable as u r. & most older mums had thier 1st at around 17 - 18.. & some teenagers have better income than older women.. Some older women just want the income so why is it that all us teenagers want is money & a house.. Because.. Its not true i am 17 earning £1800 a month & renting a house untill i get a coucil 1.. But by the time i get that i will b able 2 buy 1.. Soo i am not counting on it.. U all just NEED 2 realise some of us have got our heads screwed on but just want a baby young.. Look on the bright side.. We will b young nice lookin mums!!! :)
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I dont think u can tell me what i do with my life.. I work in a call centre get £1200 a month & earn £600 commission a month if not more.. I am very gud on the phone duk!! Dont hate koz ii earn more than what u doo..
& yes i am still with my babys father & we plan on havin more in around 3 years or so.. & yes i am ready 4 the responsibilities i am about to undertake..
& there is plenty of time to live & go clubs.. Certain people wanna club 1st & certain people wanna family 1st.. I chose the family option thanks.. & ii have lived a likkle because ii luk older than my age.. So have partied etc..
Sorry im not saying older mums r boring old & ugly i am jus sayin we are not all immature & childish!!x
I totally agree with you. I am 24, had my first child at 18, although I'd had a couple of miscarriages before that, and my babies have all been wanted. My daughter was very much wanted, and I am still with her father, she was a bridesmaid for us when she was 2. We now have three children, our daughter who is almost six and two boys, aged 2 and 1, and they are loved, well dressed, have good manners, and most importantly they are all happy and healthy. My daughter dances, and has singing lessons and we pay for everything ourselves, my husband works and I stay at home to look after the children, as even if I went to work the extra money would be eaten up in childcare costs so its not worth it. We live as an extended family unit with my mother and her husband, which cuts living expenses as each couple pays half the mortgage and half the household bills which means that I have more money to give the children what they need and want.
But when I had my daughter especially I did feel that people looked down on me, even though she was planned, even though we were together, because of my age. Not important people, my health visitor was great and when I had trouble with my bro-in-law she documented the effects the pressure was having on me, and what a good mother I was because I was terrifed that he was trying to have my child taken off of me after we had a row. As I've got older I've got over it and realised that what other people think doesn't matter. I'm a good mum and my children are testement to that fact, so I just dont listen anymore. I wanted my kids young, and I'm thrilled to have the family I've got now, and like you say if you leave it till later you may never get a baby. So long as you have children for the right reasons I really dont see the problem. I have a problem with mothers, whatever age, who keep having kids just so they can claim benefits and live in council houses without paying the rent. They are in my view much worse than teenagers who just want a family and who work hard to provide for them.
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its just the way ppl were brought up huni! in 50 years or so this will be looked at as a normal part of society. iv just turned 20 and im a mummy of 1 and expecting 1 more. i would have had my first at 16 if things didnt end up the way they did. but jus dont worry about what other ppl think what is important is you and what yoiu want and the descisions you want to make. you do sound very mature for your age u kinda remind me of a younger me did all the partying expirencing and what not now its time to settle down and do the things you really wana do! and yes there are more complocations when you are older but not all the time. just do what you want hun dont worry wbout what other ppl think k! gud luck with this pregnancy! how far anlong ru? im just shy of 16weeks so find out soon wat we havin :D
and just i might add my dad met his wife to this day, when he was 16 and she was 15 and they got married believe it or not at 16 and 17.
i read until.... dont hate cause i make more than you LOL! your just a stupid wee girl that should go grow up a little and im not much older than you!
A lot of it of that people don't think your emotionally/mentally ready to have a child and raise them for the next 18 yrs of their life. When a person waits until the are older, they have had more life experiences that can help them with raising their child (finicially, emotionally and mentally ready at a later date in life). When you are still in high school and have one, we see what kind of struggles you will be making. It is hard to continue to go to your classes when the baby wants to be up and playing every two hours in the night, then head to class for 8 hours, come home and study but the baby needs your attention. It makes finishing your edication very hard. Some people it works for them and others it doesn't. I strongly believe in waiting until you have finished your high school and get some life experiences behind you before having kids. This doesn't mean you have to go to college, but get out there and work in the real world at min. wage and try to riase a child on the pay? Diapers/wipe/formula are all very expensive and you can see your pay check disappearing before you ever get to pay rent, buy groceries etc. It's not easy and it is a LIFETIME commitment.
If it's for you, make the best of it and make sure your child konws you love them no matter what, but if motherhood isn't for you at this time, get out and experience life while you can.
You have to look at it from a different perspective. As an older mom, I've gone through just about everything imaginable from all 4 of my children. I've gone through my daughter enlisting in the Marines. I've gone through one son with drugs. I've gone through another son with legal problems he brought on himself and I'm going through my youngest daughter moving out and going to college. There are so many things that an older parent knows can happen.
I think a lot of younger moms think raising a child is going to be all fun and games, and it's not. It's very stressful trying to work, keep your family happy, sending your child to daycare and, on top of that, making sure your house is clean and your family is fed. And this is just a few of the things we moms do.
I'm sorry for your miscarriages. I've never experienced that part of motherhood and I thank God for it.
I commend you on being dependent on no one but yourself. But just try to see things from an older mom's point of view. Having a child will bring you experiences you never dreamed of. I think we look down on teen moms because we've raised our children and know the pitfalls. Maybe looking down is a wrong term. We just don't want you, as a younger mom, to cut your social life down to nothing because you have a child to care for. We raised our children and don't want to raise our grandchildren because our son/daughter made a bad choice, in our opinion, to have children early. We want you to enjoy life without such a huge responsibility for a little while. You can't fault us for feeling that way. It's a mom thing...and we all do it.
I fell pregnant at 17 and had my daughter at 18, she was unplanned and my now husband and i had been together for 4 years when we found out.
Your not a mother yet so you have NO idea about how difficult being a parent is, trust me honey when your little one is born that's when you'll realise why it's best to wait.
You say your privately renting till you get a council house, well good luck with that, because you won't get one, especially if your already living somewhere.
I can tell your not mature enough already by the way you phrase your sentences and the abbreviations you use.
Trust me your going to get a shock when you become a Mum, it's not all romantic and nice its slaving away 24hrs cooking,cleaning. washing,day in day out NO time for yourself and no time for anything other than being a mum.
Sorry if i sound harsh but you seem abit naive about it all, i thought you should know the truth.
This all was immature and childish. I think you need to invest in a dictionary and an English book.
Honestly, I'm 18 and a mother of one.. some people are actually ready for a baby, and some people aren't. If you feel the need to put others down and stoop to the same exact level as everyone else, you aren't ready to be a mom. It takes so much more than money. You need a support system and the ability to be responsible and patient. You will never sleep the same again either. My little boy keeps me up all day and all night just with his feedings. He eats every 2-3 hours just like any typical newborn. It's crazy and you have to be able to handle the responsibility.
And let me ask some questions. Do you know how much time and effort is put into a baby? Are you continuing your education? Do you know how much a baby can cost?
Your going to spend how much money you make on diapers and wipes a month.
Good luck to you I guess.
People look down on pregnant teens because teens should wait until they are at least out of high school.
Planning a family involves so much more than the money. You need stability and support, patience (which I have to say that the older you get, the more you have) and understanding about what is really important in life. Once you get to that point, you will know that it's not about the money. I'm assuming that you finished school...what about marriage? Statistically, you are asking for trouble where your relationship is concerned. I know that sometimes things do work out, but the numbers aren't in your favor. Babies are all cute and cuddly, sure, then they turn into kids and that's when the real work begins. When you are exhausted in the first month of your baby's life, keep in mind that this is the easy time. I don't honestly believe that it matters if you are a nice looking young mom or not. Either way, you're already pregnant, so good luck. Maybe everything will work out the way you want it to in the long run. Unfortunately, life just doesn't usually work that way.
THANK YOU im so sick of it all 2. i fell pregnant with my son at 15 and had him two months after i turned 16 he is 15 months old now and i love him so much. Me and daddy are engaged now and loving life. thanks 4 sticking up for us all. and agree with what u said about older mums. see we get to watch and live and grow up with our kids we have more time to enjoy them.
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